The sense of belonging has a significant impact on children’s independence and mental well-being later in life.
From the moment a child is born, parents or caregivers become their entire world. While the ideal scenario involves parents providing unconditional love to their innocent smiling baby, the reality often includes the challenges of everyday chores and work. Taking care of a baby is exceptionally demanding, requiring constant attention 24/7, and it comes with financial responsibilities.
This is where society plays a crucial role in offering support to parents. Families with a strong support system feel secure, creating a nurturing environment for children to grow. This sense of security is vital for their development. Even when children venture out without their parents, they can face challenges knowing that upon completion, they can return home to their belongings, someone to discuss and navigate through difficult experiences. Acceptance is crucial for our mental well-being and also creates a sense of belongingness.
How to Cope with Tough Times
These experiences, coupled with the security provided by parents, enable children to become confident in handling various situations independently. This confidence leads to a healthy sense of independence, where children learn to deal with tough situations, navigate difficult relationships, and understand concepts of fairness. The key difference lies in the availability of someone to whom children can turn during challenging times, seeking comfort and advice to cope with difficulties.
Ultimately, these experiences, along with the security provided by parents, are more likely to contribute to children’s confidence in handling any situation on their own, fostering healthy independence.
If Parent can’t provide Security
It is not the end of the world. Communities and friends are also able to create a sense of belonging. In Japan, the government and council are trying to create a charity called “Kodomo Shokudo” (Children’s Dinner). Children who are alone at home due to parents being full-time workers, single parents who have to work long hours, or children who find it difficult to stay at home with their families can come to this charity. They provide food and assistance with homework. Moreover, there are people available to talk to.
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